The Gay/Lesbian Patient

If you are in a gay or lesbian relationship, there are special problems that heterosexual people do not face. One of these is "heterosexism". Fields & Scout⁸ explain that, heterosexism, is a term that is replacing homophobia, and describes a condition where it is expected that everyone is heterosexual. This assumption in health care settings can be very damaging, because if it is assumed that everyone is straight, it can discount a person's sexual preference, the presence of a beloved partner, and disregard gay or lesbian health needs.

Similar to heterosexuals, the stability of a healthy sexual relationship after cancer depends a great deal on what your relationship was like before the cancer diagnosis. Those who are involved in a single-partner, permanent relationship usually feel more supported according to Fields and Scott.

Many healthcare providers have little experience in being sensitive to certain behaviors that may show or hint at the fact that you may have a same sex partner. Also, they are not successful in asking for information about sexual orientation because they don't ask the right questions. Depending on your level of comfort, it is important to explain whom your partner is and that you wish to have them involved in all information, education, and decision-making.